Female sexuality | In contact with your power

We live in a society that is 'doing and performance-oriented', even in bed we have to perform... Female sexuality requires the opposite. Without action and without purpose! Instinctively, most women know this, and we feel that something is wrong when we experience our sexuality in a 'masculine way'.

Daring to live female sexuality has a powerful and deep impact on your daily life, work and relationships, and it is not without reason that it has been labeled one of the 'Taoist secrets'.

Fortunately, some women have never lost this potential, and I don't want to say anything about that, and I can probably learn a lot from these women…..
But I suspect that these women do not end up on this website :-).

Female sexuality has a very unique characteristic: The more subtle and sensitive it is approached, the more sensitive and orgasmic it will be experienced. Although (lucky) women are equipped to achieve orgasm in a 'masculine way' (often clitoral), that is not our wonderful potential, and for many women not as satisfying as the female orgasm, which is often deeper and with greater abandon is experienced. For many women it is difficult to find this distinction, to let go of the known, and to make this link, and also to take responsibility for this in contact with a (possible) partner. In our culture little is said about this feminine potential, the Christian church was even afraid of it. The medical world sometimes even denies that there are orgasms other than clitoral for a woman.

I believe that we women are orgasmic beings, and that if we can live our lives effortlessly and with total surrender, trust and relaxation. Even though I usually don't succeed.

Often there is an immediate recognition and a feeling of coming home when you as a woman start to read and especially experience your orgasmic potential. The yoni egg can be an extremely valuable tool in that research.

In female sexuality, relaxation, rather than tension, is the great golden key, and that is also where the magic of (self) massage, (female) meditation, dance, the yoni egg, the yoni steam and de-armoring. These are tools that help the body (abdomen, pelvic area and vagina) to relax through attention and presence, thus releasing our orgasmic potential. As soon as tension is released, this gives an orgasmic sensation. The more relaxed and open you are, the greater your orgasmic potential, and the deeper you will experience these (sexual) sensations.

The female body is extremely capable of storing tension and (collective) trauma, and that is why many women are chronically much more tense than would be necessary if they were more in touch with their sexuality. Burnout is a classic example of this, but I even believe that many other physical, mental and emotional conditions are related to it.

This is also the reason that women in good, deep sexuality can suddenly and without any rational reason burst into crying. Although this may frighten a partner (or even the woman herself), this crying is usually not experienced as negative, but is precisely a sign of a deep female orgasmic discharge. A release of tension, the effects of which can sometimes last for a woman for days.

And yes…. this is an exciting journey of discovery that is unique for every woman!

The most important key is to learn to listen to the signals from your body and your yoni, to respect them, to support the desires, and to work on good and open communication in intimate relationships, so that your partner can also further your sexuality open to new and unknown paths, because you feel safe, heard and supported.

If you feel that you want to learn more about this sexuality, take a look at the reading list on my website, or receive personal support in individual sessions offered by the teachers on my website, follow your intuition, and feel which of the women resonates with you most.